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Had been on my way home when received the vet call....hour and half earlier i had hospitalised my adorable green birdie he was poor but hopeful....

She said he was getting worse, had a seizure after seizure, she suggested euthanasia as he was suffering, We were talking and she was watching him and suddenly sad I should be kind to him now. I was....Not sure what I was want to do with the body: bury, arrange the cremation, donate to the vet college...

He is was one of the inseparable duo. The other bird is fine but obviously stressed and shouting for him. How could I ease his suffering? Shall I try to find another parrotlet? Or try to bond with him?

Overwhelmed with thought and pain. he was 4 year old, my cheerful and lively Dipsy.

 

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I am sorry for your loss. There is a lot of pain from losing these little guys especially one of a pair. You have my sympathy and empathy and if there was anything i could say to make it better I would but sadly there is not.

Early on I had a bonded pair of parrotlets called Bo and Jules that we rescued from an over stressed bird lady. We lost Bo to seizures about 6 months in. I think that seizures is a common way for these little guys to go out. In our case his seizures kept getting worse until we did what had to be done. The remainder parrotlet Jules grieved. Then something strange happened. We started paying more attention to her and since we did not want her alone allowed her more access to us. As her bonds to Bo faded she bonded to us intensely. It sounds corny but we became a flock / family. My wife said she brought something to us that we did not know we were missing. Jules was the best pet we ever owned from 2013 to 2021. In 2020 it became obvious that she was getting older and heading to the end of it. We found her a buddy and her last favor to us was training him to us and us to him. It was wild for a while with two free flight parrolets around the house again. Sadly she moved on but she is still the best pet I have ever had.

My advise would be to allow more access to your family to the remaining bird and see how they react. Every bird is different so you never know how it is going to go. Then you can make a call if you want an additional bird or leave it as a single.
 

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Thank you so much for your most kind words and advice. It all so raw to me, seems i may lose a plot a bit.

Thank you for sharing Bo and Jules' story. Could I ask you try to remember anything that helped Jules coping in the first weeks?

I have started thinking to donate him but only because i am a coward and would no bare see him dead. see was so full of life and mischiefs. but feel guilty. is somewhere there a tread discussing our last duty toward our pets?
 

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Thank you so much for your most kind words and advice. It all so raw to me, seems i may lose a plot a bit.

Thank you for sharing Bo and Jules' story. Could I ask you try to remember anything that helped Jules coping in the first weeks?

I have started thinking to donate him but only because i am a coward and would no bare see him dead. see was so full of life and mischiefs. but feel guilty. is somewhere there a tread discussing our last duty toward our pets?
Your duty is what makes you guys feel best. For us I buried Bo under a tree by the river on our property and about a decade later did the same to Jules. They both were wrapped when we got them back so we did not have to look if we did not want too.

As for what we did different with Jules after Bo was free flight her with us. Previously her and Bo had a room that was sort of theirs, it was home office. After Bo died, Jules became free flight in most areas. But she became a Velcro bird being on us or one of a few perch sites for her. We became a bit like a Disney movie with a little blue bird flying back and forth among the family.
 

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Oh I am so very sorry to hear this difficult news. My heart goes out to you. These times in our lives are so painful, I know only too well. But he was a very lucky little bird to have such a loving home. Not all are so fortunate, sadly.

Right now, your other little fella needs your presence, patience and love. He will be confused and your presence will be reassuring. It’s never easy to know if another bird will help. There’s no guarantee they will tolerate each other. If you do decide to get one, you will have to keep them in separate cages until you are sure they won’t attack one another. Parrotlets are very territorial and can be extremely aggressive if their space is invaded. Supervised out of cage time is the best way to see how they manage together but it has to be supervised. In any event, they will need to be separate for a period of time when you first get the new one to ensure no issues with disease etc. But while you consider whether or not to get another one, see how it goes with this little guy. Talk to him, keep him close when you are having meals, if possible, and share some of your food. Feeding time is a social activity for them and it will help him to not feel lonely and to bond with you.

Please let us know how things are going. You are in my heart.
 

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@ginziputzi Thank you so much for your supportive response.

Pain is still deep, very deep but there are 4 other birds to look after ( the surviving parrotlet from the pair, cocktail and 2 canaries) and I started to see sense. Not in rush to make a decision but watching. Seems the parrotlet finds some comfort by being around other birds-he spent all day today jumping on their cages. Poor little widow.

I must decide what to do with Dipsy's remains now: either donate to the vet college where he is now or collect and bury him. The second option is emotionally difficult but seems fair to my birdie. My friend believes the donation is a good gesture to develop vets. I do not know.
 

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Very sorry to hear that you lost your beloved Dipsy! So sad, He was beautiful. It is never easy when a sweet beautiful soul like one of these leaves us. They become such an important part of our lives. And losing one is a huge painful loss. When they go they seem to take a part of our heart with them. You have a big decision to make regarding what to do with Dipsy's remains - I think you should do what gives you peace. {{hugs to you}} I hope your other parrotlet is doing okay!
 

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Awww Dipsy. So lovely. They sure do wiggle their way into our hearts, these little fluffballs. I am glad that your little green dude is finding some distraction in the other birds and giving you some space to make good, informed decisions. Decisions based on emotion don’t always work out well. Sometimes they do, but not always.

I completely understand your dilemna about what to do with sweet Dipsy’s body. If you donate his body to the vet school, which is indeed a noble option, are you able to recover his ashes when they are done? I ask this because both of my parents donated their bodies to a medical school and the school cremated their remains and returned the ashes to me. I don’t know that s vet school would have the funding to do this, but you may want to ask. Even if not, you could ask what is done with the remains when they have finished - it may help you to decide what you want to do.

What I believe with my whole heart is that they leave their bodies behind when their energy/soul - whatever you want to call it - is released and it is for those who loved then to honour them in whatever way we see fit. I don’t believe in having to see the body once life has left it and it is perfectly reasonable to prefer to have your last memories of him as a living creature. No one gets to dictate to you what your heart is telling you. “Closure” doesn’t necessarily come from seeing a body whose soul has passed. To me, it is what you do leading up to that moment - the love, companionship, comfort and care of a lifetime together right to the moment of passing that counts. You have given him all of that and as it happens, he passed without your presence. As sad as that may be, that is how life goes sometimes. Does that mean you now have to look upon his little body? Not for me, no. But you should honour him and that can be by donating his body so that another kind-hearted soul can learn how to help these lovely creatures. My beloved mother once said she would like to believe that a student who used her body for medical study would one day save a baby from dying. The same could be said for Dipsy - perhaps the student who studies him will save other little birds and bring happiness to other loving families. Alternatively, burying his body in a special place that you can visit, or planting a tree or beautiful flower with his remains is also a very beautiful gesture of love and respect.

So you see? There is no wrong answer here. You and Dipsy shared love and love doesn’t die. That is still here with you and is still with him wherever he may be. Try not to let your struggle deepen your pain. He wouldn’t want that. Your heart knows what to do because Dipsy is there, in your heart. Just listen to it and find your peace. That will then let our sweet Dipsy fly free.
 

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Just to say I chose to bury my adorable Dipsy and he had never been kissed so much before yesterday (well, he was deeply boned with his his partner and so happy that I let them be and live untamed). Magically, the Rainbow appeared while I was walking to burry him. I walked 21 km in his memory yesterday and finally feel closure.

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Thank you for your support and sharing thought.
 

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Wow. That’s incredibly beautiful. What an honour to our sweet boy. And the rainbow - Wow. What a grace to get a sign like that. He will always be with you, in your heart, part of who you now are. And he will always be part of this forum’s flock. I am deeply moved. Thank you so much for sharing. 💛💙
 

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I love that you chose to bury DIpsy in such a beautiful peaceful place.💚 I love remote places like that! Besides the rainbow being a sign of hope, I think it was telling you that Dipsy is okay, and that you made the right decision. I am glad it has brought you peace. Thanks for sharing with us. 💚
 
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